It's all about attitude.

Last week I saw a matchmaking show on TV. Mind you, it's not that I enjoy watching such shows. I usually abhor reality shows (so much for their "reality"), but this time, one of the guys really got me stunned (and please, don't jump into conclusions yet; I'm perfectly normal).

In the show, the guys and girls get matched in any combination possible and they have to push a button if they want to choose the guy/girl. With only 2 girls left (he apparently wasn't chosen by the other girls), he begins to look desperate. When he got rejected (again), the girl was asked why she didn't push the button. She said, "Who would want to go out with such a selfish and self-centered guy?" And then he made a comment that really made me think "What the *beeep*?". His particular comment (to the girl) was, "You're gonna regret not choosing me. I'm the perfect guy. You won't find another guy like me." Well, needless to say, I do agree with his last sentence. You're not likely to find another guy like that... Thank goodness...

When finally he got rejected by the last girl (which at this point comes to no surprise to me), he made another comment that once again stunned me (and even more so), "Why didn't any of them choose me? What am I lacking? I'm handsome, tall, perfect... I just don't understand what's wrong with these girls." Get a grip, dude. It's all about attitude. I thought the other girl was clear enough with the "selfish" and "self-centered". And he wonders why he can't score... Apparently, this guy needs "dense" and "emotional control difficulty" added to those traits.

OK, enough bashing. My principle about bashing is if you can bash other people about something, make sure you don't do the same thing. So what about me? Well, I certainly won't EVER say I'm a perfect guy. Sometimes my ego comes in and I can look like being selfish and self-centered myself, but most of the time, I try my hardest to be considerate and think about others. It doesn't always come out the way I imagined, but at least I don't try to put myself as the centre of the universe. About being dense, I'd leave it to others to decide, because if I'm dense, I probably wouldn't notice it anyway. As for emotional control, I've learned over the years that letting your emotions go unchecked will cause more harm than good, and I can say that I've learned to suppress my emotions when needed. Not to the point of suppression like the Vulcans, but adequate (I think)...